About Ryan
Ryan Holley is a relationship coach who specializes in emotional intelligence and attachment styles. A U.S. Air Force veteran and father of four, he brings a grounded, no-nonsense perspective to the often confusing world of romantic relationships. His work draws on years of training with a psychotherapist mentor and solid psychology research.
Ryan helps clients understand why they keep ending up in the same painful dynamics — and how to actually change that. A central theme in his work is helping people see the difference between "their stuff" and their partner's stuff, so they can stop second-guessing themselves and start building real emotional intimacy.
He offers one-on-one coaching, live workshops, and self-paced courses covering topics like avoidant attachment, trauma bonding, gaslighting recovery, and communication. He also authored a 26-week relationship transformation guide available on Amazon.
Background & Training
Psychotherapist Mentor Training / Mentorship
Coach Training / Certification
Offerings
Individual Coaching Session (50 min)
50 min / Virtual
One-on-one session with Coach Ryan to help you understand and navigate distressful relationship dynamics.
3-Session Coaching Plan
3 x 50 min / Virtual
Three 50-minute individual coaching sessions. Save approximately 20% off the individual session rate.
5-Session Coaching Plan
5 x 50 min / Virtual
Five 50-minute individual coaching sessions. Save approximately 30% off the individual session rate.
The Avoidant Reset: Detach, Regulate, Reclaim Your Power
2 weeks / Virtual
A 2-week trauma bond detox and attachment pattern reset with 2 live calls, lifetime replay access, community support, and direct access to Coach Ryan. Includes Emotional Intelligence Foundational Course.
The Avoidant Trap: Why You Can't Let Go (And How To Break It)
60-75 min / Virtual
A 60-75 minute live class explaining why avoidant relationships feel addictive and how to permanently break free. Lifetime replay included.
The Avoidant Playbook: How They Actually Think
60-75 min / Virtual
A live workshop breaking down the psychology behind avoidant attachment — why avoidants lose feelings, pull away, breadcrumb, and come back. Replay included.
Emotional Intelligence Foundational Course
Self-paced / Virtual
50 videos, transcripts, and 14 practical exercises covering the principles and skills to recognize and build emotionally healthy relationships. Self-paced, online access.
Gaslighting Defense and Recovery Course
Self-paced / Virtual
Modules to help you recognize gaslighting, protect yourself, and recover from its impact.
Dos and Don'ts Roadmap for Healthy, Intimate Relationships
Self-paced / Virtual
A course covering the vital elements of emotionally healthy relationships to help you stop repeating toxic patterns.
5 Effective and Powerful Communication Phrases
Self-paced / Virtual
Free course to build communication skills for asserting needs, recognizing healthy vs. toxic behaviors, and building emotional intimacy.
I Can Help If You're Navigating
Romantic Relationship Struggles
Heartbreak & Breakups
Intimacy & Sexual Connection
Feeling Stuck or Lost
Communication & Conflict
Self-Worth & Confidence
Limiting Beliefs & Self-Sabotage
Codependency & Attachment
Anxiety & Overwhelm
Nervous System Dysregulation
Shadow Work & Inner Child
Childhood Trauma
Narcissistic Abuse Recovery
Post-Divorce Rebuilding
Divorce & Co-Parenting
Family Dynamics & Boundaries
What Clients Say
★★★★★
"I wanted to let you know that my conversation with you was more valuable than the attachment therapist I spoke with. Keep up the good work!"
Client
★★★★★
"Hey Ryan! You probably get a lot of these but I couldn't feel more grateful for finding your page a few weeks ago. It really provides a great perspective for me as someone working with an anxious attachment style working towards making it a secure one."
Client
★★★★★
"Thank you for your videos. I am an avoidant and didn't realize it until I watched your videos. Wow, do they resonate with me! The risk of abandonment is so great that I disappear in a relationship or create a fight when I feel any type of threat to the security of the relationship. Now that I realize this is a real thing I can look for ways to fix my behavior. Thank-you for all of your content. It is incredibly helpful."
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