Rachel New is a London-based dating and relationships coach with nine years of experience helping people navigate modern love. With a research background in social psychology from the University of Oxford and training in mindfulness, attachment theory, somatic psychology, internal family systems, and polyvagal theory, she brings a rare blend of academic rigor and genuine human warmth to her practice.
Rachel works with people at all stages of dating life — from crafting a compelling profile to understanding what went wrong in past relationships and building the confidence to try again. She especially enjoys working with neurodivergent clients and approaches each person with patience, curiosity, and zero judgment. Her clients consistently describe her as a safe space: someone who challenges them gently while holding them with care.
In couples work, Rachel draws on the Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and Non-Violent Communication. She's a graduate member of the British Psychological Society and is working toward accreditation as a Chartered Coaching Psychologist. Coaching with Rachel is warm, practical, evidence-informed — and often described as life-changing.
Background & Training
Practicing since 2017
Social Psychology Research / University of Oxford
Psychology Teaching Qualification / Qualified
Relationship Coaching / Certified
Mindfulness / Trained
Life Coaching / Trained
Trauma-Informed Coaching / Trained
Neurodiversity-Informed Coaching / Trained
Counselling / Trained
Attachment Theory / Trained
Internal Family Systems (IFS) / Trained
Polyvagal Theory / Trained
Somatic Psychology / Trained
Gottman Method / Certified
Non-Violent Communication (Marshall Rosenberg) / Trained
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (Dr Sue Johnson) / Trained
Personalised dating and relationship coaching covering profile writing, conversation skills, understanding your needs, building confidence, and ongoing support through the early stages of dating.
Couples Coaching
1 hour sessions / In person & virtual
Goal-driven coaching for couples using the Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and Non-Violent Communication. Focuses on communication, conflict, reconnection, and building new positive patterns.
Self-Directed Coaching Programme
Self-paced / Virtual
A structured self-paced coaching programme for those who want to work on their dating and relationships independently.
Workshops
Varies / In person & virtual
Group workshops on dating, relationships, and personal development.
Dating Workbooks
Self-paced / Virtual
Published workbooks and an anthology of short stories about relationships and technology, available for purchase.
I Can Help If You're Navigating
Romantic Relationship Struggles
Intimacy & Sexual Connection
Communication & Conflict
Self-Worth & Confidence
Heartbreak & Breakups
Loneliness & Social Connection
Anxiety & Overwhelm
Limiting Beliefs & Self-Sabotage
Post-Divorce Rebuilding
Codependency & Attachment
Family Dynamics & Boundaries
Nervous System Dysregulation
Reviews & Testimonials
“I would definitely recommend Rachel. I came to her after a lengthy spell of being unable to get beyond the first date with several women. Her advice on the sorts of things to talk about on a first date and how to flirt allowed me to move beyond that stage with one of the first wo...” “I would definitely recommend Rachel. I came to her after a lengthy spell of being unable to get beyond the first date with several women. Her advice on the sorts of things to talk about on a first date and how to flirt allowed me to move beyond that stage with one of the first women I subsequently met. We're now married with a child. Thanks, Rachel!”
CarloFrom website
“When I first contacted Rachel I felt completely disillusioned with dating. I'd always ended up dating men who didn't seem to want a relationship and I was not getting likes from the right men online. Rachel was systematic in helping me reflect on my beliefs about relationships an...” “When I first contacted Rachel I felt completely disillusioned with dating. I'd always ended up dating men who didn't seem to want a relationship and I was not getting likes from the right men online. Rachel was systematic in helping me reflect on my beliefs about relationships and in learning to value myself and to treat myself with respect. She guided me through the stages of dating in a supportive and non-judgmental style. I could be completely honest with Rachel and she has shown wisdom and compassion in her responses. Rachel knew how to challenge me while guiding and supporting me to a better path. On the third date I had after coaching, I met someone and it feels very different to anyone I've ever dated before: he wants to spend time with me and so far it feels so easy. I'm now engaged!”
MichelleFrom website
“I got in touch with Rachel about someone I had been dating for a few months. I was unsure how to move the relationship forward and how to make sense of what was happening. Through Rachel's coaching I was able to build my confidence. Rachel was able to put my mind at ease and was ...” “I got in touch with Rachel about someone I had been dating for a few months. I was unsure how to move the relationship forward and how to make sense of what was happening. Through Rachel's coaching I was able to build my confidence. Rachel was able to put my mind at ease and was a great sounding board. She gave me practical advice, which helped move me forward. Rachel helped me move forward by revamping my profile, building my confidence again and working with me to identify my relationship needs. Rachel provided lots of helpful suggestions around messaging and specific dating issues that were relevant to me. Rachel was also on hand to answer ad-hoc email queries in between sessions at short notice. I've now been in a happy relationship for five years and my partner and I have just had our first child.”
BenFrom website
“After several years of dating with declining enthusiasm and what felt like continuous disappointments and let downs I was feeling pretty uninspired by dating, and had reached the point of giving up. I contacted Rachel as I was determined not to let online dating get the better of...” “After several years of dating with declining enthusiasm and what felt like continuous disappointments and let downs I was feeling pretty uninspired by dating, and had reached the point of giving up. I contacted Rachel as I was determined not to let online dating get the better of me. Rachel helped me truly discover and have confidence in what I want, need and deserve in dating and a relationship. I got the resilience and understanding of the dating world that I had craved, and I've now been dating my boyfriend for eleven months and it's going really well.”
HarrietFrom website
“I initially started coaching with Rachel for social anxiety and self-esteem. I have found her to be very warm, patient and supportive. The coaching certainly took unexpected turns but I have found it to be transformational. Before I started coaching I was hesitant to start becaus...” “I initially started coaching with Rachel for social anxiety and self-esteem. I have found her to be very warm, patient and supportive. The coaching certainly took unexpected turns but I have found it to be transformational. Before I started coaching I was hesitant to start because I had convinced myself I was very capable and didn't need any help (or didn't deserve any help). I would encourage anyone to give it a go, it has changed my life.”
NickFrom website
“For me, coaching with Rachel has been literally life-changing. When I first contacted Rachel I only expected to find out if dating was viable for someone as socially anxious as me and maybe a little help with my dating profile. What ended up happening transformed not just my beli...” “For me, coaching with Rachel has been literally life-changing. When I first contacted Rachel I only expected to find out if dating was viable for someone as socially anxious as me and maybe a little help with my dating profile. What ended up happening transformed not just my beliefs about romantic relationships but about myself, emotions and all my other relationships. And throughout I have found her to be unceasingly gentle, patient and kind. Rachel will not judge those parts of you that you might be a bit embarrassed about, and not only is she a lovely, friendly person, she is also as evidence-based as a dating coach can get.”
NickFrom website
“Working with Rachel has transformed how I see relationships (both romantic and non-romantic) and has helped me to better communicate my needs. Rachel creates a safe space where you can explore your dating concerns, fears and woes. Working with Rachel has given me a sense of agenc...” “Working with Rachel has transformed how I see relationships (both romantic and non-romantic) and has helped me to better communicate my needs. Rachel creates a safe space where you can explore your dating concerns, fears and woes. Working with Rachel has given me a sense of agency in my dating life and I can honestly say that the coaching sessions have been invaluable.”
ZoeFrom website
“My coaching sessions with Rachel were amazing. She combined evidence-based research on relationships topics with her own experiences and written materials. When sharing my story, she was completely non-judgmental. As such I felt I could be open and honest with her, and we were ab...” “My coaching sessions with Rachel were amazing. She combined evidence-based research on relationships topics with her own experiences and written materials. When sharing my story, she was completely non-judgmental. As such I felt I could be open and honest with her, and we were able to work through my issues. I now feel like I have some good strategies going forward to build a healthy relationship with my partner.”
FarisFrom website
“Rachel has been supporting me through a difficult relationship break-up, and helping me process my emotions around what happened. I have found Rachel to be supportive and affirming in creating a safe space for me to share my feelings, and in reflecting them back to me in a non-ju...” “Rachel has been supporting me through a difficult relationship break-up, and helping me process my emotions around what happened. I have found Rachel to be supportive and affirming in creating a safe space for me to share my feelings, and in reflecting them back to me in a non-judgmental way. As someone who was brought up in a sexually repressive religious environment, I've also found Rachel helpful in working through some of my thoughts and feelings around sex, and moving into new sexual relationships.”
EdFrom website
“Rachel has been such a wonderful help and safe space to discuss relationship uncertainties, fears, and hopes. It's been amazing to have Rachel's encouragement, patient listening, and support. I recently entered into a new relationship with lots of challenges, and working with Rac...” “Rachel has been such a wonderful help and safe space to discuss relationship uncertainties, fears, and hopes. It's been amazing to have Rachel's encouragement, patient listening, and support. I recently entered into a new relationship with lots of challenges, and working with Rachel has been a key ingredient to its success and happiness.”
BiancaFrom website
“Before talking to Rachel I had considered that my anxieties and concerns would not be understood by others. Rachel has proved me wrong. I have found her to be extremely insightful and wise, possessing what appears to be a natural gift in understanding how people relate to one ano...” “Before talking to Rachel I had considered that my anxieties and concerns would not be understood by others. Rachel has proved me wrong. I have found her to be extremely insightful and wise, possessing what appears to be a natural gift in understanding how people relate to one another and how they formulate thoughts, opinions, and emotions. Her guidance held much weight and credibility. Much of what she had advised has resonated with me deeply, causing me to reflect on my perspective, and helping me to cherish situations which I had otherwise seen as failures and obstacles.”
AjayFrom website
“Rachel is an exceptional coach – a wonderful listener who asks the right questions to get to the very heart of a problem. Passionate, wise and thoroughly INSPIRATIONAL!”
ClareFrom website
“Rachel is a fantastic relationship coach: it wasn't easy convincing my long-term partner to give couples coaching a go after I felt we were stuck in some negative patterns, but she immediately struck the right chord with him and us. Her coaching has definitely benefited us, forci...” “Rachel is a fantastic relationship coach: it wasn't easy convincing my long-term partner to give couples coaching a go after I felt we were stuck in some negative patterns, but she immediately struck the right chord with him and us. Her coaching has definitely benefited us, forcing us to reassess aspects of our relationship and create new, positive patterns. Of course it's difficult not to fall back into old patterns but now we can see them and often say 'Remember what Rachel said!'”
ClientFrom website
“Couples coaching with Rachel is a fun and effective way to reclaim and enhance your relationship! I wholeheartedly recommend it to all couples!”
ClientFrom website
“Coaching with Rachel has given us such a comfortable, safe space to explore our issues. She has given us the tools to start conversations we'd never dreamt we could have, and tools to ensure they develop without conflict or escalation. Rachel has provided us with different ways o...” “Coaching with Rachel has given us such a comfortable, safe space to explore our issues. She has given us the tools to start conversations we'd never dreamt we could have, and tools to ensure they develop without conflict or escalation. Rachel has provided us with different ways of looking at situations, often that focus on positives we hadn't even noticed were there! Most importantly, Rachel has given us hope for our relationship.”
ClientFrom website
“Rachel gives a space that feels safe to explore difficult thoughts, feelings and experiences as a couple. She has helped us with identifying negative cycles and patterns and what leads to these, and how to start overcoming them and communicating in a way so we both feel heard. As...” “Rachel gives a space that feels safe to explore difficult thoughts, feelings and experiences as a couple. She has helped us with identifying negative cycles and patterns and what leads to these, and how to start overcoming them and communicating in a way so we both feel heard. As well as this she helps focus on the love, joy and connection in our relationship. She is a lifeline to support during difficult times and brings hope for the future of our relationship.”
ClientFrom website
“I have been working with Rachel for over a year now and the commitment has been 100% worth it. I am so grateful for the time, space, and empathetic ear that she lends me. It can be a minefield out there, so having a trusted, neutral, human third party to hold my hand through it a...” “I have been working with Rachel for over a year now and the commitment has been 100% worth it. I am so grateful for the time, space, and empathetic ear that she lends me. It can be a minefield out there, so having a trusted, neutral, human third party to hold my hand through it all is wonderful. If you are at all on the fence about relationship coaching, I'd really encourage you to give it a try — and to do it earlier than you think you need it. There's minimal downside and an entire universe of positive upside.”
"I would definitely recommend Rachel. I came to her after a lengthy spell of being unable to get beyond the first date with several women. Her advice on the sort..."
Carlo
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