Kate Anthony is a divorce coach who has spent more than 15 years helping women navigate what she calls the hardest decision of their lives — whether to stay in or leave a marriage. Based in Oceanside, California, she works with women stuck in chronic conflict, emotional abuse, and the grinding uncertainty of a marriage that isn't working.
Her approach blends trauma-informed coaching, feminist analysis, and concrete strategy — helping clients understand both the relational patterns in their lives and what to actually do next. Her book *The D Word* and the online program "Should I Stay or Should I Go?" have reached hundreds of thousands of women, and her Divorce Survival Guide Podcast ranks in the top 0.5% worldwide.
Before coaching, Kate spent 30 years as an actor, including stints on Sesame Street and Grey's Anatomy — a background that lends her work both warmth and a gift for navigating high-stakes conversations with honesty and care.
Background & Training
Certified Professional Co-Active Coach (CPCC) / Co-Active Training Institute
High-Conflict Divorce & Coercive Control Training / Specialized
Emotional Abuse, Narcissistic Abuse & Relational Trauma / Specialized Training
Advanced Communication Training (Imago Therapy Modalities) / Advanced
Offerings
Focused Strategy Sessions
3 sessions (1 hour each) / Virtual
A 3-session coaching series for critical decisions and focused strategies. Helps develop divorce strategy, prepare to work with an attorney, plan difficult conversations, and make the stay-or-go decision. Includes The Divorce Survival Guide Resource Bundle (32 documents).
Premium Coaching Package
12 sessions (1 hour each) / Virtual
12 one-hour private coaching calls with calendar access, email support between sessions, access to Kate's suite of online programs and resource bundles, a private client community, and a complimentary 1-hour session with a financial advisor specializing in divorce.
Should I Stay or Should I Go? (SISOSIG)
Self-paced / Virtual
Online self-paced coaching program designed to help women make the ultimate decision about their marriage. Covers self-esteem, emotional abuse recognition, relationship patterns, cultural influences, and co-parenting. Includes community access.
Phoenix Rising
Ongoing / Virtual
Online group divorce coaching community for women who have made the decision to divorce and are navigating what comes next.
I Can Help If You're Navigating
Divorce & Co-Parenting
Narcissistic Abuse Recovery
Self-Worth & Confidence
Feeling Stuck or Lost
Anxiety & Overwhelm
Post-Divorce Rebuilding
Codependency & Attachment
Heartbreak & Breakups
Romantic Relationship Struggles
Family Dynamics & Boundaries
Communication & Conflict
Shadow Work & Inner Child
Limiting Beliefs & Self-Sabotage
Stress Management
Childhood Trauma
Anger & Emotional Regulation
Midlife Crisis / Awakening
Reviews & Testimonials
“Having Kate to help me navigate the pain in this process was EXACTLY what I needed. She is trained to do this. She is brilliant. She is an expert. She will hold your hand during one of the most important decisions you will make in your life and empower you to live your best life....” “Having Kate to help me navigate the pain in this process was EXACTLY what I needed. She is trained to do this. She is brilliant. She is an expert. She will hold your hand during one of the most important decisions you will make in your life and empower you to live your best life. I am forever grateful.”
H.M.From website
“This is so much more helpful than any talk with my attorney!”
M.A.From website
“Coaching with Kate was one of the best decisions I made during this period. Kate was able to offer me practical advice, create healthier ways for me to work with my co-parent, and help me reconnect with my power. Kate is the perfect balance of care, humor, lightness, and directne...” “Coaching with Kate was one of the best decisions I made during this period. Kate was able to offer me practical advice, create healthier ways for me to work with my co-parent, and help me reconnect with my power. Kate is the perfect balance of care, humor, lightness, and directness. As a result of our work, I feel clear, more confident, and better equipped to tackle all the things logistical and emotional that come with the life changing process of divorce. If you are considering working with Kate, I have one piece of advice...do it!”
D.G.From website
“Working with Kate has been so amazing. In the span of 2 months I went from truly not understanding WHY my relationship was failing to being able to identify the reasons, the traumas behind it and be confident in knowing what I deserve and asking for it. The investment was for me ...” “Working with Kate has been so amazing. In the span of 2 months I went from truly not understanding WHY my relationship was failing to being able to identify the reasons, the traumas behind it and be confident in knowing what I deserve and asking for it. The investment was for me and saved me many more months of struggling with this decision.”
L.G.From website
“Reading The D Word is like sitting with a wise, experienced and educated friend who gently takes you through your fears and the nuanced logistics of making the decision to leave, figuring out how to tell him and the kids, how to protect yourself from hostile reactions and so much...” “Reading The D Word is like sitting with a wise, experienced and educated friend who gently takes you through your fears and the nuanced logistics of making the decision to leave, figuring out how to tell him and the kids, how to protect yourself from hostile reactions and so much more. It is a divorce coach in a book. The empathy and gentle kindness you feel the moment you begin to read these pages is in and of itself comforting. Kate Anthony has taken an immensely frightening and overwhelming circumstance and broken it down into bite size, understandable and doable small steps, while sharing a depth of love and compassion for where you are. If you are on the fence or just deciding to leave, this book is your best companion through the early stages of the process.”
Karen McMahonFrom website
“For those who feel powerless and lost in broken marriages, Anthony shines a light.”
Publisher's WeeklyFrom website
“Better and worth more than nearly all of the money I've spent in therapy...For real.”
T.S.From website
“I was hesitant to enroll in SISOSIG because I was so unsure of everything, but every single module, every video, every worksheet helped me tremendously. I'm not exaggerating when I say that I'm a different person than I was when I started this program.”
S.C.From website
“Kate is like a good friend who tells you like it is, no holds barred but in a kind way. It's like having a knowledgeable big sister/girlfriend who is on the other side telling you the stuff that you need to know to get yourself together and move on with your life so you can thriv...” “Kate is like a good friend who tells you like it is, no holds barred but in a kind way. It's like having a knowledgeable big sister/girlfriend who is on the other side telling you the stuff that you need to know to get yourself together and move on with your life so you can thrive not just survive. Friends keep saying that they can't believe how calm I am and how much I have already learned from just working my way through the program.”
"Having Kate to help me navigate the pain in this process was EXACTLY what I needed. She is trained to do this. She is brilliant. She is an expert. She will hold..."
H.M.
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