About Emma
Emma Heptonstall is a divorce coach, strategist, and author who spent over a decade as a lawyer and mediator before turning her focus to guiding women through one of life's hardest transitions. Known as The Divorce Alchemist, she combines genuine legal literacy with trauma-responsive coaching to help women move through divorce with clarity and confidence rather than chaos.
Her work is especially valuable for women in high-conflict situations — including those divorcing someone with narcissistic tendencies — and for those who feel frozen, overwhelmed, or terrified of making the wrong move. Emma brings both practical strategy (understanding the legal process, saving on solicitor costs, navigating paperwork) and emotional steadiness, helping clients regulate their nervous system so they can think and decide clearly.
She works virtually with women at every stage: still in an unhealthy marriage, mid-process, or navigating final financial settlements. She is also the author of the Amazon bestseller "How to be a Lady Who Leaves."
Background & Training
Qualified Lawyer and Mediator / Professional
High Conflict Diversion Specialist / Certified
Trauma-Responsive Coaching / Trained
Offerings
One to One Coaching (Weekly)
Ongoing / Virtual
Ongoing weekly calls to talk through whatever you need — emotions, legal paperwork, strategy. No subject off limits.
Clarity over Coffee
90 minutes / Virtual
A 90-minute call to problem-solve a specific stumbling block in your divorce.
Ask The Alchemist
Varies / Virtual
A one-off session to work through a thorny issue or specific question about your divorce.
Clarity Day
1 day / Virtual
A full day working with Emma on your divorce — whatever you need, however you need it. You'll leave with a clear plan and a weight off your shoulders.
She Can Divorce
Ongoing / Virtual
A group programme for women taking control of their divorce process.
Divorce Concierge
Ongoing / Virtual
High-touch concierge support throughout the divorce process.
I Can Help If You're Navigating
Divorce & Co-Parenting
Narcissistic Abuse Recovery
Post-Divorce Rebuilding
Anxiety & Overwhelm
Heartbreak & Breakups
Nervous System Dysregulation
Feeling Stuck or Lost
Stress Management
Family Dynamics & Boundaries
Self-Worth & Confidence
Communication & Conflict
Limiting Beliefs & Self-Sabotage
Childhood Trauma
Anger & Emotional Regulation
Codependency & Attachment
What Clients Say
★★★★★
"Being coached by Emma is like having a conversation with a friend, I always feel totally at ease with her. Emma has a special knack of asking just the right question at just the right time to unlock my constrained thinking and there have been many lightbulb moments! Emma gets me to think differently, be easier on myself and open up to new ways of perceiving a situation. I always come away feeling uplifted and ready to approach my goal with a fresh perspective."
C.B.
★★★★★
"Emma has helped me in a way I will never forget. I am going through a lot of issues right now with my ex and my own personal family lawyer (my lawyer is not answering any of my questions or communicating with me at all and is making me feel like I'm bothering them). I reached out to Emma with questions regarding my case. She didn't once make me feel like I was bothering her, in fact, the complete opposite! Because of her, I feel more relaxed and confident going forward with these issues."
A.C.
★★★★★
"Emma is a coach of exceptional skill. She has a proven ability to deliver transformative, life-changing 1:1 work with warmth, humour and integrity. Highly recommended."
Dr. Henrie L.
★★★★★
"I had a Zoom with my lawyer this afternoon. She said that my bills are much lower than originally anticipated. I explained that's because I'm using the Absolute Academy and not needing to ask so much advice of her and she was very complimentary about the Academy."
E.W.
★★★★★
"Not only has Emma saved me a small fortune by avoiding unnecessary solicitor visits, she has also equipped me with the knowledge I need and the confidence to drive things forward and to ask for what I really want. Emma does this with patience and good humour, even when you are losing it and you feel like your world is ending. If you are questioning the cost, don't! She is worth every penny and pays for herself in the money she saves you and the voice of sanity she brings amidst the chaos."
Lucy
★★★★★
"Working with Emma has been a hugely positive experience and saved me a stack load of cash – I'm only now instructing a solicitor, as we near the end of our divorce process. Emma's so gifted at holding space for the huge emotional rant every time it gets difficult, and then somehow managing to understand where we are both coming from, and helping me to put together my calm, rational response in a way that will be well received by my ex. I genuinely do not know where I would be without her!"
Heidi
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