Connell Barrett — Dating & Attraction in New York, NY

About Connell

Connell Barrett is a New York-based dating coach who works exclusively with men, helping them meet and attract women through confidence and authenticity rather than manipulation or scripted lines. After a difficult early dating life — including a short-lived marriage — he spent nearly a decade studying attraction psychology and training with coaches around the world before developing his own framework.

His A.C.E. system (Authenticity, Clarity, Expressiveness) is built around the idea that women are drawn to men who show up as genuinely themselves. Before coaching, Connell spent 17 years as a magazine journalist writing for Sports Illustrated, Esquire, and Maxim — a background that shapes his ability to help clients find their voice and communicate with ease.

He works especially well with introverted or shy men, guys who've been stuck in the friend zone, recently divorced men returning to dating, and those who've tried other programs without results. Sessions often incorporate improv-style drills, real-world field practice, and deeper work on self-worth and limiting beliefs. Clients regularly report that the coaching goes far beyond dating — becoming more open, more present, and more themselves.

Offerings

1:1 Dating Coaching

Ongoing / In person & virtual

Personalized one-on-one coaching program designed around the client's specific goals and challenges. Includes in-depth assessment calls, real-world field practice, and post-session missions. Uses the A.C.E. system (Authenticity, Clarity, Expressiveness) to help men confidently meet and attract women in 90 days or less.

2-Day Intensive Program

2 days / In person

Immersive two-day program combining personalized instruction, improv-based drills, and live field practice. Includes detailed notes and follow-up missions.

Free Consultation Call

Varies / Virtual

A free one-on-one assessment call to discuss dating goals and determine if coaching is a good fit.

I Can Help If You're Navigating

Romantic Relationship Struggles

Loneliness & Social Connection

Self-Worth & Confidence

Anxiety & Overwhelm

Limiting Beliefs & Self-Sabotage

Communication & Conflict

Intimacy & Sexual Connection

Feeling Stuck or Lost

Post-Divorce Rebuilding

Perfectionism & People-Pleasing

Reviews & Testimonials

“I now take so much action and meet many girls. I feel more present, real and vulnerable—not just with girls but at work and with my friends. I'm much more open and at ease, and people tell me I'm more likable. Connell made a big difference in my life. I feel like more of a man.”

Allen, 27 From website

“Connell took me from having no dates to 3 dates in 3 days! He said, 'Women don't like your game—they like you, the real you. You don't execute game. Game is your personality, your humor, your energy. You don't do game. You are the game.' I bought in. Within a week, I was dating t...”

Brad, 32 From website

“Connell's program is about a lot more than dating beautiful women. It's about self-development — being more authentic, taking action, and blasting through limiting beliefs to achieve what you want. Our 2-hour session went deep. It was worth as much as a weeklong, $1,500 program I...”

Zack, 33 From website